From the very beginning of mankind, humans found
a way to communicate with each other. It could be language, arts,
dance, expression, or even hostility. Clans fought each other just to prove the
fact that they were superior; this can also be considered a part of
communication. But in this modern-day era, people are confining themselves
within the barrier of expression. People are failing to express themselves. Let’s
explore ourselves!
1. Emotions are not just feelings inside; it’s a story in itself:
Imagine this: you are just hanging out with your best
friend, and your body feels really calm and cool. You feel safe and sound. Your
mind says, “Hey, brother, you are really safe with this guy, don’t worry.”
But, suddenly, at a random midnight, while texting him/her, they seem to be bit
off with their day-to-day expressive behavior, their expressions feel a bit more
confined. And your brain spikes a sudden alarm, “Brother, is everything ok? I
don’t feel ok, really right now, I feel like the safe spot is fading away!” and
that triggers a secondary alarm of “Losing Friends”. That’s Because according
to the “Attachment Theory”, humans tend to feel the habituated attachment as a safe spot.
Seems really out of the box, right? Let me explain. If someone really admires
someone or creates a safe spot revolving around them, our brain habituates itself
around that safe spot. But any form of abnormality can shake that emotion, which will cause the alarm of “Something is wrong.” This is sometimes explained by the past trauma of people who really felt violated, cheated, or abused
mentally or physically. Because that simple abnormality can create a shock to the traumatized brain. That is the basic difference between trauma and
fear. Because Human trauma response depends on past activities and experienced
actions, but fear mostly revolves around.
2. Fear Vs. Trauma: A tale of two sorrows
Fear and trauma often appear similar, yet psychology
treats them as different mental processes. Fear works as an immediate survival
response. When the brain detects danger, the body activates the fight or flight
response described by Walter Cannon. Heart rate rises. Attention sharpens. The
mind focuses on survival. Once the threat disappears, the stress response
gradually settles, and the body returns to balance. Trauma develops differently. Trauma forms when harmful experiences leave deep emotional imprints
in memory. These memories shape future perception. A person no longer reacts
only to present danger. The brain begins to anticipate danger based on past
experiences. This often produces hypervigilance, a mental state where the mind
constantly scans for possible threats. In such conditions, small changes in
tone, behavior, or communication may trigger strong emotional reactions. The
danger does not exist in the present moment. The brain responds to echoes of
the past.
Let’s break it down in a simple manner. When you see a
robber in front of you, your body feels unsafe and triggers a fight or flight mode, where your adrenaline rushes so high that either you can blindly fight
that guy (Please never risk your life) or you can run as fast as a cheetah.
That’s fear; your body sensed an immediate response and impulse, and your nervous
system acted accordingly.
But Trauma is a whole lot different thing to expect. Suppose you loved a girl.
You loved her so much that your brain feels that, “Brother, this is the person
that you can vouch for your life for!” That’s because your degree of attachment
went to that stage, where you trust that entity with yall our emotions. But
let's say the unfortunate happens, not at breakup, no fuss, just pure ghosting.
Where the other side completely dries up and creates a vacuum of emotion. Now, your
brain is just messed in such a way that before trusting anyone and being
attached to that level, your brain will try to notice traces and patterns,
anything resonating that vacuum will immediate “Trauma Response”. This simply
makes your body act as if it's in acute danger. That’s trauma.
3. Speak the Unspoken:
What
should people do now? Many people carry unspoken emotions, unresolved hurt, and
quiet fears inside their minds. Silence often deepens confusion in
relationships. Emotional bonds depend on communication. Love, care, and trust
grow when people speak honestly about their feelings. A simple conversation
often prevents misunderstandings from growing into lasting emotional distance.
Words hold the ability to reassure, clarify intentions, and rebuild trust
between individuals. Life will still bring conflict and unexpected tension. In
those moments, patience and humility become necessary. Calm and thoughtful
expression protects relationships from unnecessary harm. Emotional connections
take time to build and require responsibility to maintain. People must learn to
express their feelings with care and awareness. When individuals choose honest
communication, they protect both their own emotions and the emotions of others.
